Momma Kiss is my guest this week and if you don’t know of her or her blog, this woman has sass and spunk for days with an ooey gooey scrumptious center.
Her letter today is to a dear friend who recently lost her brother. Let it be a good reminder that even though we may not connect with our friends as often as we’d like, they are always in our hearts and their hurt is shared.
Dear Bobo,
I know it’s been over a year since we’ve seen each other.
Call it busy schedules with both of our little families growing or just plain life in general, I’m wishing we hadn’t let so much time go by.
And I know we’ve been in touch plenty, via texts and messages and sharing pictures and laughs.
So when I got a message from you on Saturday, knowing you’d send something even though I was with family, I opened it expecting a silly monkey face.
When instead, I read that you were in pain and in shock, not at all ready to speak – but that your brother had been killed in a car accident – I dropped to my knees.
Bobo, I’m so sorry for your loss.
So. Sorry.
I hate that you know this pain. This pain so raw you want to claw your skin off. You want to scream at the top of your lungs “WHY?”
Everyone grieves differently, and the process you will go through will not be easy. Services will be held {wear sunglasses}. Sedatives may be advised {take them}. Questions will be asked {you’re allowed to ignore them}.
Your Momma will need a hug and a shoulder – if you can, offer it.
Please, my friend, also allow yourself the time to process this. I know you’re one to take care of everyone else’s needs first. Please take care of you.
And after things calm down… after your friends stop bringing you food and wine… You will find yourself in your kitchen… maybe in The Bunker, folding laundry. And you will have a memory of your brother that may just shatter you.
I want you to know that it’s not the end of the world, though. I promise you.
From this day forward, every single thought you have of your brother – childhood fights, laughs, his time with your boys – every single one will honor his time on earth.
I love you, Bobo. I’m here for you.
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