“You’re the yin to my yang, the ping to my pong, the normal to my crazy. Let’s be us together.” – The Big C
When Daddy’s away, there will be:
- phone calls on speaker phone and cute photos and videos sent.
- more time spent in jammies.
- pizza lunch dates, dessert after every meal and sitting at Lucas’ table for snacks.
- fewer time-outs.
- preschool drop-offs that require more than support than the front office coordinator is able to provide.
- requests to sleep in”Mommy and Daddy’s bed”.
- bedtimes that get dragged out past 9:00 and nightmares at 1 o’clock in the morning.
- tempers that flare and patience lost.
- too many glasses of wine consumed.
- more appreciation felt than ever expressed.
Lucas misses his daddy as much as I do. Only one more sleep until he’s home!
This post was inspired by Stasha’s Monday Listicles, a linky right up my alley! This week’s topic: Yin Yang was chosen by Zook Book Nook.
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This Made me cry. My husband just got back and Kim is home alone too. You hit a home run. All ten are my ten too. Lovely post Tonya, WOW!
Thank you… as soon as I saw the prompt, I thought of my husband and our marriage and parenting partnership.
So glad you only have one more sleep….we used to say that, too!
Everything is measured in sleeps. 🙂
Wow, reading this made me feel closer to my husband and all that goes on when he is gone. I love the quote, because it just sums it all up! It amazes me how much the presence of my husband impacts how well everyone sleeps. When he is home my girls sleep in until 5 and 6a.m. and they sleep through the night, but when he is gone sleep drastically takes a down turn, me included. I thought my husband would be the strict disciplinarian since he is in the military, but when it comes to our daughters he is such a softy. He and I definitely have the yin yang relationship with parenting and as a couple 🙂 Thank you so much for this wonderful post; it touched my heart!
Thank you for your kind words.
I can do the parenting thing alone, but I wouldn’t like to on a regular basis… too much upheaval for the little one and too much pressure/stress/frustration for me.
Your husband is in the military? Does that means he’s gone for months on end? My heart goes out to you both.
Happy that Todd will soon be home! I can just imagine Lucas’ face tomorrow… and yours :)))
Pure excitement. 🙂
Yay for lots of desserts and little tables, but oh dealing with the tantrums on your own must be tough after a while 🙁
I love the fun stuff. The tough stuff? Not so much.
lovely list–I hear in this list the way that you try to “sweeten” things a bit when Daddy’s away (pizza, jammies, fewer time-outs) and I also hear exhaustion (tantrums, kids crawling into bed)…I’m glad for everyone’s sake that daddy is home soon!
You heard right. It’s hard doing the parent thing on your own. I don’t know how mothers who have spouses in the military do it. They are the true heroes in my eyes.
Aw…one more night, Yay! I’ve tried spending 3 days without my hubby and parenting my kids alone – I was ready to check myself in the mental asylum by the time he came back. Great yin yang list!
It is SO hard. Six days is my limit. I can do more, but somebody would get hurt. And it would probably be me.
One more day. You can do it.
When daddy is away at my house it’s like a party to my kids since they can do pretty much whatever they want when I’m in charge. I’m usually counting down the minutes until he returns.
I can do it! I can do it! has been my mantra for the past week.
As a Dad who is on the road frequently (and even now!) this touched me and raised my eyebrows a couple of times.
Less time out?
Dessert after EVERY meal? Breakfast too?
Why are the kids drinking wine when I’m not there? 🙂
By the way, Dads hate being away as much as everyone else hates us being gone, and we know how hard it is on the moms. We wish it were different.
Okay maybe there’s no dessert after breakfast, but things are definitely a lot more relaxed when Daddy’s away.
I respect and appreciate my husband and all that he does for our family so that I can be a stay at home mom. And all husbands that are hands on dads and work full time job and have to travel from time to time.
It’s rare that my husband has to travel, but when he does it’s tough on everyone.
Thank you so much for your comments.
Awww, hang in there, one more day right?
Yes I can!!
Your house too? None of my kids sleep well when Dad is not at home. They are like popcorn, one up then down, then another awake. He works two or three overnights each week and I keep thinking we will all get used to it!
Your writing is stirring and heart-warming. You reminded me to appreciate the joys of having the kids to myself, not just remember the hard parts. Thanks.
Oh dear… you have more than one. Not sure I could handle that. What am I saying? Of course I could. In time.
Thank you for your kind comments on my writing.
My husband isn’t often away, but I know what you mean. There are some really nice things about it and some horribly hard things. But always lots of appreciation for how much easier and better it is with two.
Luckily, Todd doesn’t travel very much either. Thank goodness. It’s really hard to do it all alone.
oh dear. 🙁 my H is going out of town ALL next week. while i carry most of the caretaking load anyway, it will be hard on Daddy’s Girl i bet. and after reading this.. i may need to get some wine.
Wine after bath and bedtime is TRULY what git me through…. Stock up, sister.
It’s so hard when Daddy is gone! Hang in there!
We did okay. Six days is definitely my max. I learned that this week.
Aw, that’s so hard when there’s only one of you!! Although, the dessert after every meal one sounds pretty good to me 😉
It wasn’t bad, but I’m sure it’s why bedtime was so wonky. Live and learn.
Awww- it is so hard when you have to do it all while the other one is away. Prayers are with you during this time!
We did okay… a few touch and go moments, like at 1:00 AM, but we made it through. 🙂
I’ll be there very soon. My husband will be out of town one week out of the next three months. I’m in trouble.
That’s three weeks, so I’d get at least a case of wine. If you’re a drinker. If not. I can e-mail you my phone # and you can text me, tweet me, e-mail me whenever you need to vent, scream or cry on someone’s shoulder.
I also HIGHLY suggest, booking a sitter for one of the days he’s gone. Just for a couple of hours to give yourself a break.
Hang in there. If I can do it, you can too!
Tonya – I have two words for you: you’re awesome! Thanks for the support!
Hooray for joining your child at the snack table, extra desserts, and later bedtimes! Hooray there’s just one more sleep left until he’s home… (-:
One more sleep and yay!
My husband was away for 3 weeks once.
We survived. Barely. Never again.
There is such a different feel in the air when daddy’s not home! I’m hoping that things fall back into their comfortable routine soon!