My infertility column on SheKnows has been canceled.
My last post ran on July 1.
I am very disappointed, but extremely grateful for the opportunity to discuss my battle with secondary infertility on such a large platform and on behalf of an amazing organization. SheKnows is one of Forbes Top 100 Websites for Women and one of the Top 10 Lifestyle Sites for Women.
I know for certain my column made a difference to a lot of people. I have had several privately reach out to me to thank me for my words and I am overjoyed that I could be there for them in some small way and that they know they are not alone! Just today I e-mailed with a woman who found out she miscarried after her recent IVF. It breaks my heart, no one should know this pain.
I have been most surprised by family and friends that have shared their struggle with me. I hate that infertility is still such a taboo topic. I would have liked to have known these couples, these women in my life were struggling earlier.
Writing the column was very therapeutic for me too. Writing in general is very therapeutic for me.
Originally intended to run for two months, my column ran for six. I am very proud of the 24 posts I wrote covering everything from the best books on infertility, using humor to get through dark times, how this disease puts your marriage to the test, the importance of infertility support groups and grieving a miscarriage. I put my heart and soul into every word I shared and was pleased to do it with honesty and integrity.
If you missed any of my posts, you can find them here on the SheKnows.com site or on my personal Secondary Infertility Pinterest board. There is still so much to share because this conversation must continue, so I am working on finding another home for my words, in addition to continuing my story here on Letters For Lucas.
I would to thank my editors at SheKnows and all of my supporters, in particular, my DBA friends and Nichole Beaudry, who pretty held my hand every step of the way. xo
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I love you, my friend.
On to new adventures.
And I’ll always be here to hold your hand.
Thank you, my friend. xoxo
Wasn’t sure if I should write this or not, but I’m glad I did. The column meant a lot to me.
When one door closes, another always opens!!
I hope you’re right, Wendy.
Your articles helped many people who may have had no other lifeline for their infertility struggles. Love you, eager to see where your next adventure takes you! xoxo
You and me both, Sherri! (:
Yours is a mighty and powerful voice my dear … it will be heard, and there are many who will hang on each and every word xxxx
Thank you. I appreciate your kind words and I am proud to be a voice for those struggling with this horrible disease.
you have done so much for the voices of infertility , and I know your voice will just move onto other places and spaces .
Love you and looking forward to where the journey takes you next.
xo
Thanks, Kir! xoxo
I love you.
That is all.
That was a very powerful column and you will continue to impact many people wherever you land.
I hope so. Thank you for your support.
You should be wicked proud of all the people you’ve helped/wonderful words you’ve spread. And yes, for sure, you’ll be up n’ running again in no time. 🙂
That’s my hope! Thank you for the support, my friend.
I regularly read and shared those articles because there were at least three women whom I am friends with on facebook who privately told me thank you for sharing them…that they brought light, hope, and necessary info to them.
You are amazing in every way, my friend!
I love you right back, Katie! xoxo
The things you wrote there were amazing, and I’m sure they helped a lot of people. Just know that those posts will live on and continue to help women struggling with infertility.
I am a reluctant pro when it comes to this disease but I’m happy to help others anyway I can. Thank you for the support, Jennifer. (:
You have been strong and brave in the face of this very tough issue. I am certain that women from all over are thankful for you! xo
Thank you. I appreciate your support and kind words.
I had no idea that the column just got canceled! Are you feeling a little relieved too now that it’s done and you can move on to working on other things? Or missing it still?
Um? Did you read this post? Obviously I’m missing it and feel it is of the utmost importance and know that it helped others and myself too. I’m still fighting this fight and miss it so much that I’m trying to find another home for it.
You have done a service to many, Tonya.
I just *know* that something else awaits you out there. Your writing deserves to be read, needs to be read.
Onward and upward!
You have such a powerful voice, about something that so many women can relate to. It’ll find a new home somewhere, I’m sure of it!
I’m sure another fantastic opportunity is coming your way. xo
Think of it as a step towards something bigger, better, and brighter. Not only that you helped so many people with your column and that is incredible.
I’m so sorry, but I just *know* there is more writing in your future. Your writing has been (and IS) meaningful to so many.
What a disappointment for you, I’m so sorry! Instead of being sad that it’s over and feeling bad that it was cancelled, try to feel proud that it ran three times longer than originally planned. You done good!
I hope you find a new outlet soon. You have things to share that others take much comfort in!
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I’m sorry it’s been cancelled. Although I don’t know the pain of infertility first hand I was always amazed by your honest, beautiful way of sharing your journey.
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So great to find another person with a few genuine thoughts on
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